tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4956057989227103850.post6930785062740160629..comments2023-10-19T09:36:41.506-05:00Comments on A Mormon Enigma: I don't careAbelard Enigmahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13166049686152203530noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4956057989227103850.post-2434278369980050712007-09-19T17:17:00.000-05:002007-09-19T17:17:00.000-05:00I am trying to understand how a hetero woman can b...<I>I am trying to understand how a hetero woman can be married to an openly gay guy and be happy with that.</I><BR/><BR/>Truth be told - I am not openly gay. I blog under a pseudonym. The only person who knows me personally and that I am gay is my wife. A few of my friends in the queerosphere know my real name, but we've never met in person. I have 4 adult children (and 3 grandchildren), and Abelard Enigmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13166049686152203530noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4956057989227103850.post-6155117485613358692007-09-19T16:44:00.000-05:002007-09-19T16:44:00.000-05:00Wow. So your wife doesn't have a problem with you ...Wow. So your wife doesn't have a problem with you being gay and that you "have a blog and gay friends in the queeroshpere"? I'm just very intrigued with her acceptance of this. I do not judge you, nor do I judge her. <BR/><BR/>I am female and have many gay friends...both lds and non-lds. I just wonder how a woman can be ok with her husband being gay...meaning...NOT being attracted to her in Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4956057989227103850.post-47524191721175718862007-09-18T16:35:00.000-05:002007-09-18T16:35:00.000-05:00"I'm gay, it's just part of who I am. I choose to ..."I'm gay, it's just part of who I am. I choose to remain gay celibate and am active in the church...My struggle is having to keep this part of me a secret out of fear of the consequences because of prejudice and misunderstanding."<BR/><BR/>This is probably the most suscinct synopsis of your blog that you could have written. It's exact, to the point and covers the bases beautifully... (and you Beckhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06159223254071653666noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4956057989227103850.post-19604257302156411002007-09-17T22:28:00.000-05:002007-09-17T22:28:00.000-05:00is your wife aware that you struggle with same-gen...<I>is your wife aware that you struggle with same-gender attraction?</I><BR/><BR/>Yes. And she is aware that I have a blog and gay friends in the queeroshpere - I even talk about my gay friends with her.<BR/><BR/>btw, I don't like to think of it as <I>struggling with same gender attraction</I> - I'm gay, it's just part of who I am. I choose to remain gay celibate and am active in the church. IAbelard Enigmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13166049686152203530noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4956057989227103850.post-65129030319570356532007-09-17T21:38:00.000-05:002007-09-17T21:38:00.000-05:00After viewing your site, is your wife aware that y...After viewing your site, is your wife aware that you struggle with same-gender attraction?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4956057989227103850.post-54563366042819038312007-09-17T21:21:00.000-05:002007-09-17T21:21:00.000-05:00been in a bit of funk myself lately. in the past ...been in a bit of funk myself lately. in the past i make my way out by some physical accomplishment--building, writing, whatever. but of course i'm in too much of funk to get started. just gotta break that cycle.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4956057989227103850.post-54413734452236544282007-09-17T01:01:00.000-05:002007-09-17T01:01:00.000-05:00don't fight the funk! go with it and know that it'...don't fight the funk! go with it and know that it's ok to feel the way you are feeling. of course you want to be happy most of the time, but maybe your body and spirit are trying to tell you something. sit and listen. maybe there's a reason for the funk. look inside and see what's there.elbowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07742457647216774548noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4956057989227103850.post-54589057152414708912007-09-15T13:58:00.000-05:002007-09-15T13:58:00.000-05:00But, I still want you to take that long attitude-a...<I>But, I still want you to take that long attitude-adjusting drive in your sexy new car!</I><BR/><BR/>We did that yesterday for my wifes birthday. I took the day off and we went driving. We headed NorthEast to Ikea (where we also ate breakfast), then East to a quilt shop she wanted to visit, then West to a quaint little town which is where we ate dinner, and then SouthEast back home. All in Abelard Enigmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13166049686152203530noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4956057989227103850.post-49669228947408633302007-09-15T12:03:00.000-05:002007-09-15T12:03:00.000-05:00Good for you on taking your meds and encouragement...Good for you on taking your meds and encouragement on this part for you to seek medical assistance where motivated to do so.<BR/><BR/>But, I still want you to take that long attitude-adjusting drive in your sexy new car! :)Beckhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06159223254071653666noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4956057989227103850.post-20449875387002208712007-09-15T09:46:00.000-05:002007-09-15T09:46:00.000-05:00Sounds like a bit of depressionIt sounds a lot lik...<I>Sounds like a bit of depression</I><BR/><BR/>It sounds a lot like depression. But, the thing is, I don't feel depressed. Being one who suffers from clinical depression (which I have under control via medication), I do have some experience in this area.<BR/><BR/><I>so... are you taking your meds?</I><BR/><BR/>Yes - and don't feel bad checking up on me with this.<BR/><BR/>These feelings of Abelard Enigmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13166049686152203530noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4956057989227103850.post-3455697545068208422007-09-15T09:21:00.000-05:002007-09-15T09:21:00.000-05:00It's none of my business and I don't mean to tell ...It's none of my business and I don't mean to tell you what to do, but I know you've told other people this when they get into this funk - "so... are you taking your meds?"<BR/><BR/>Getting away from the normal grind always does it for me. Why don't you hop in that new snazzy red roadster of yours and go for a ride - a really long one, away from the garden and the weeds and the reminders of the Beckhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06159223254071653666noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4956057989227103850.post-63511399357677744532007-09-14T21:47:00.000-05:002007-09-14T21:47:00.000-05:00Draw a big circle and label it "Pie Chart of Procr...Draw a big circle and label it "Pie Chart of Procrastination."playasinmarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05998841658611428960noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4956057989227103850.post-34602732740068898052007-09-14T19:54:00.000-05:002007-09-14T19:54:00.000-05:00Sounds like a bit of depression, to me. I'd take ...Sounds like a bit of depression, to me. I'd take whatever steps you feel necessary to improve the situation. :)Kengo Biddleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12083962910965544925noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4956057989227103850.post-25063853230132882662007-09-14T10:56:00.000-05:002007-09-14T10:56:00.000-05:00Maybe this mood is like sitting in the train stati...Maybe this mood is like sitting in the train station, waiting for the train to arrive. Except you don't even know if a train is coming. Maybe your soul just needs quiet. Maybe if you can just wait patiently for long enough, the train will arrive, the one you didn't expect.John Gustav-Wrathallhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03557940681381951271noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4956057989227103850.post-76610130443045613652007-09-14T10:28:00.000-05:002007-09-14T10:28:00.000-05:00Have you ever felt this way before? If so, when?Have you ever felt this way before? If so, when?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com