tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-49560579892271038502012-01-21T10:58:19.447-06:00An exploration of what it means to be Married, Mormon, . . . and GayAbelard Enigmahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13166049686152203530noreply@blogger.comBlogger5411100tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4956057989227103850.post-37576095480259748522011-05-29T17:06:00.000-05:002011-05-29T17:06:48.374-05:00

I've been meaning to post this, especially since May is almost over ... I was asked to speak in Sacrament meeting on mothers day; My assigned topic was "Charity". I have to admit, I was a bit apprehensive about talking on mothers day as the usual talks include saintly pioneer ancestors, mothers, and grandmothers that are put on a pedestal so high that no woman could ever hope to match.  My

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The apocalypse came and went and I'm still here - so I guess I ought to write in my blog.  The year is nearly half over, and I think this is only my 2nd post in 2011.  A far cry from how I used to be with this blog. I received a Scribit suggestion recently - which surprised me as I thought I remembered receiving an email that the Scribit gadget was going away.  Anyway, an anonymous reader asked

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I attended the priesthood leadership session of our stake conference Saturday a week ago.  Our stake president began his talk by relating a discussion he had with his teenage son about the one answer that can be given for any question in seminary - no matter what the topic, you can always give this answer.  He then shared the following little ditty Read your scriptures Learn to pray Go to church

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4 years ago (12/19/2006 at 7:48 PM CST) I posted my very first blog post. Woop-De-Doo !!! I've pretty much run out of things to say - so I'm wondering if it'll make it to 5 years ...

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Our stake has initiated a program where, without going into the nitty-gritty details,  we are to talk to every member in our ward to gather information about their their ancestors in their 5-generation pedigree.  Basically, we're getting the number who've had their temple work done from each ward member.  In a 5 generation pedigree chart, there are 30 direct line ancestors (not including children

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A lot has been written about recent changes to the LDS Church Handbook of Instructions prognosticating about the impact said changes have on gay Mormons. Organizations like HRC have claimed responsibility for the church instituting said changes because of their activism - which the church, of course, has denied. Personally, I think people are reading too much into recent changes. The CHI is

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[not so] anonymous reader suggestion:  food or photography. or distant friends in boise idaho :) I love food.  I love to cook food.  I love to eat food (and I have the physique to prove it).  But, I have another blog where I discuss food and recipes.  I'll give you a hint, it's linked in the left sidebar. I love photography; but, I have to admit I haven't been doing much with it the last few

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Pearls Before Swine I have my own problems with job (lack thereof), bills, etc. (no car problems, thankfully).  I know there are others far worse off than I am - but somehow that doesn't make me feel any better about my own problems. Why can't I just be thankful for what I have?  Am I being selfish?  Am I wallowing in self pity?  How do I get out of this rut?

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First off, I have to say that I really love the It Gets Better campaign.  The thing I like most about "It Gets Better" is the positive focus.  The gay community plays the victim so much that it's refreshing to see a positive perspective of being gay. I love watching the videos.  It seems everybody who is anybody - and even a few nobodies and anybody wannbes - has made an "It Gets Better" video;

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Anonymous reader question (part 1): Where did you serve your mission? I was called to serve in the Missouri Independence mission.  About 6 months into my mission they formed the Missouri Saint Louis mission of which I became a part of and where I served the remainder of my mission.  The Saint Louis mission covered approximately the eastern half of Missouri and the southern half of Illinois;

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This is part 2 of an anonymous question that was asked in my sidebar How did you meet your wife? If you're gay, why did you marry her? If I'm gay, why did I marry a girl? I spent my adolescent years in the late 60's and 70's - which was a very different era.  I was raised to believe that homosexuals were perverts who hung out in mens restrooms waiting to molest boys.  So, while I knew I had an

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This is part 1 of an anonymous question that was asked in my sidebar How did you meet your wife? If you're gay, why did you marry her? How did I meet my wife? It's kinda a funny story ... We met in college - at Cal Poly in San Luis Obispo, California.  I was not yet a member of the church, she had just joined that summer. While waiting in line to register for classes (this was in the days

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A reader posed the following question in my sidebar How did you come to choose such dark and oppressive colors for the MoHo directory? Answer:  Actually - I didn't.  A fellow MoHo volunteered their time and talents to redo the MoHo Directory.  Although, personally, I really like it.  It looks much more professional and polished than anything I could come up with on my own.

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Elder Boyd K Packers, now infamous, conference talk last sunday, included the following passage: Some suppose that they were pre-set and cannot overcome what they feel are inborn tendencies toward the impure and unnatural. Not so! Why would our Heavenly Father do that to anyone? Remember, He is our Father. There are a number of things about this statement that bother me Why would our Heavenly

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Boyd K. Packer spoke in the sunday morning session of general conference - and before the morning session was even over my facebook newsfeed lit up.  It hasn't even been 36 hours since his talk and already much has been written.  His talk has caused a lot of emotion and anguish.  Not only for those of us who deal with this "problem" of homosexuality - but also for the families and friends of such

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On Saturday, I just sort of pretended it wasn't conference weekend and went about my own business.  So, the first session of conference I watched was Sunday morning.  This is what I got out of it President Henry B. Eyring We must trust in the Lord - and in his duly called servants.  And, if we lack trust in said servants then it's our own darn fault because we don't have enough faith.  Implying

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The recent losses of some young family members has brought to mind the lyrics of a song I've been working off and on for the past couple of years.  I'm not finished, but I felt moved to share this work in progress. The Lost Son by Abelard Oh please ne'er forget me though earth now lie o'er meI was once young and handsome and my spirit ran freeBut wretched confusion overcame my delusionAnd a

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I taught the priesthood lesson yesterday at church.  I was given a talk by President Dieter F. Uchtdorf titled Continue in Patience as the basis for my lesson.  It's an easy topic to address - nothing controversial or uncomfortable for a struggling with ssa - gay - homo-queer - mormon dude like me.  I tried to offer a different spin on the topic.  I related the story of Steven Slater (the

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An anonymous person commented on my blog post Love the sinner - hate the sin with the following question: I'd like some input. I firmly believe the opposite, that homosexuality is wrong by God's standards. But I also believe that we should not judge, exactly as you have posted. That saying "love the sinner hate the sin" has always seem wrong. I agree we should all respect each other and let God

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I didn't mean to go so long without blogging.  I just haven't felt like I had anything worthwhile to say.  I have several unfinished blog posts in draft status which I may or may not publish. Anyway, here is what's been on my mind of late My life of poverty It's been 18 months since I was laid off.  Now, to be fair, I'm not just sitting at home doing nothing.  I have found a data entry type

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According to Wikipedia Loneliness is a feeling in which people experience a strong sense of emptiness and solitude. Loneliness is often compared to feeling empty, unwanted, and unimportant. Someone who is lonely may find it hard to form strong interpersonal relationships.Yup, that about sums it up for me. In its chronic form, loneliness is considered a life threatening condition with an

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OK, I've reviewed the 2010 DoD Comprehensive Review Survey regarding DADT - and I just don't see what the hoopla is all about.  I mean, I'm certainly no expert - but it seems to be a legitimate survey to me.  Yet many in the GLBT community are weeping, wailing, and gnashing their teeth claiming that it contains derogatory and insulting wording, assumptions, and insinuations. The issues addressed

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One year ago yesterday - coincidentally, the 40th anniversary of the Stonewall Riots - the Fort Worth Police and agents from the the Texas Alcoholic Beverage Commission (TABC) raided the Rainbow Lounge, a newly opened gay bar in Fort Worth, Texas. Several customers were arrested for public intoxication and one customer received a severe head and brain injury while in custody. The police also

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Today is Kris Allen's birthday - he is 25 years old. For anybody new to this blog - Kris Allen (2009 American Idol winner) is my imaginary boyfriend.  Of course, in my imaginary world, I am young and skinny and hot looking and single and ... [SIGH]

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Thoughts before seeing the movie First off, I did have someone contact me with whom I will be attending the movie.  We are going to the 11:15am showing on Saturday and lunch after in the nearby Dallas gayborhood. I don't actually have high expectations for the movie.  I very much doubt I'll learn anything I didn't already know.  And, I don't expect it to be very balanced.  Although I disagree

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As anyone who frequents this blog will notice, I've been playing with the new blog templates.  Let me know what you think.  I'm looking for some honest critique here - I'm a big boy, don't be afraid to tell me if you hate it, or some aspect of it.

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A while ago I posted about 8: the Mormon Proposition playing at the Angelica theater in Dallas and asked if anyone in the Dallas area might be interested in attending. Nobody has responded.  I'm not sure what to think about that.  Either there aren't any MoHo's in Dallas or none of them wants to be seen with me.  For the sake of my self esteem, I'll go with the former (even though I know, for

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Our high council speaker yesterday is a former stake president (from another stake) and mission president.  In other words, he was a talker.  Our sacrament meeting starts at 1:00pm.  At 2:10 I noticed he glanced at the clock - and kept talking.  A few minutes later I glanced at the clock, it was 2:15pm.  At 2:20pm the bishop was starting to squirm and the congregation was visibly becoming

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My daughter called me recently.  Seems she is giving a talk in sacrament meeting on Fathers Day; and, she wanted to talk about my conversion to the LDS church.  During the course of the conversation I mentioned that I had written a detailed account of my conversion in my journal and would make a copy to send to her.  Locating and copying said story afforded me a chance to reread it [after my 1st

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Gay blogs are all abuzz about passage of DADT repeal legislation by Congress this week.  As I understand it, the compromise legislation grants the president, the defense secretary, and the chairman of the joint cheiefs of staff the authority to eliminate DADT - only when they are completely satisfied that the military’s readiness, recruiting, retention and morale would not be adversely impacted

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In my last post I described what I coined homophobe-ophobia - that is, an irrational fear of homophobes. Let me be clear, I am not claiming that we shouldn't challenge homophobia - I'm just saying we need to challenge their homophobic comments and not attack the people. There is also the old adage "choose your battles carefully."  During the month of May I've seen the following calls to action

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Jonathan I. Katz is a professor of physics at Washington University - and a proud homophobe.  He is the author of an article titled In Defense of Homophobia and blames homosexuals (or "sodomites" as he likes to call us) for millions of innocent people dying from AIDS around the globe. Jonathan I. Katz is also considered one of  best scientific minds and was invited to help figure out a way to

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We've all heard the phrase "love the sinner but hate the sin" (or some variation); in fact, I suspect many of us, in our darkest days of denial, probably uttered these words ourselves.  But, what does it really mean?  Or is it merely a clever sound bite devoid of any real meaning?  Not unlike "gay marriage will destroy the sanctity of marriage" On the surface, it comes across as saying "I love

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May 22, 2010 would be Harvey Milk's 80th birthday.  I'm almost too ashamed to admit it - but nearly all of my knowledge of Harvey Milk came after the biographical film was released in 2008 and subsequent research I've done in the days since. I lived in California, less than 100 miles from San Francisco, when Harvey Milk was elected as the first openly gay city supervisor.  Sadly, however, I

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On American Idol, when Casey James read the text message regarding the judges choice of song for him to perform this week, the AT&T store he was standing in front of at the time is about 1 mile from my house - and I wasn't there.  Now in my defense, I didn't read in the paper that he was coming to my home town until moments before his scheduled arrival.  Plus, I have no clue why he came to this

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Someone in Austrailia googled signs that you're socially retarded - and was led to my blog.  So, I guess I can now add to my list of attributes that of being a beacon of social retardness. My life just gets better and better as I reach new levels - unfortunately, I seem to be headed in a downward direction.

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Initially I wasn't sure if I wanted to see 8: The Mormon Proposition;  but, I have decided I would like to see it.  It will be in select theaters starting June 18th, including the Angelika theater in Dallas.  According to the web site, the only other place it will be playing in Texas is the Angelika theater in Houston. This may be futile, but I thought I'd throw the idea out there about getting

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Some say that mainstream religion hates homosexuality.  I disagree, I believe mainstream religion fears homosexuality, largely because they do not know what to do with  us.  We do not seem to 'fit in' with the plan of creation as it is generally understood - yet, we exist.  We're like a bothersome data point that doesn't fit the hypothesis.  To borrow a phrase - we are an inconvenient truth. In

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Well, this was meant to be post #500; however, I've migrated all of my poems from my mormon-enigma-verses blog to this blog (in preparation for deleting the former) - so this is now post #503 I can hardly believe I've prognosticated and bloviated through 500 posts. In celebration, I will now share 500 things about me that you might not know . . . OK, I'm bored I'm not even sure I could think

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Growing up, I was always closer to my mother than to my father.  Not that my father and I had a bad relationship - we just didn't have as close of a bond as there was between my mother and I.  I am the youngest of 6 children which made my mother 37 years old when I was born; so, she was always older than the mothers of my friends.  Her hair also turned gray at an early age (before I was born)

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I think I've taken this blogging thing much further than it was ever meant to be taken.  You see, this isn't my only blog.  When I created this blog, I also created Mormon Enigma Recipes and Mormon Enigma Poems.  There are also, of course, the MoHo Directory and MoHo Polls blogs.  But, beyond that, I also have a private blog. Did I stop there?  Heaven's no!  I also have a personal blog under my

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I'm really not much of a political activist.  I do have a very strong sense of where I stand on most political issues; although, I don't generally try to influence others to my political leanings.  If people ask me questions about a political issue then I'll answer them honestly; but, I don't generally bring it up. That said, on the subject of gay rights, I've added a new gadget on the sidebar

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I've been such a terrible blogger lately.  And I've got the blogging stats to prove it.  Hits to my blog have dropped dramatically.  If it weren't for people googling about Kris Allen being a Mormon, I probably wouldn't get hardly any hits at all these days. Speaking of American Idol, they sent one of our Texas boys, Tim Urban, home last week on American Idol.  Can't say I was surprised;

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Last night I walked past my front door and happened to notice that there was water running out of the garage.  "This can't be good" I thought - upon checking it out, there was water running out from the hot water heater.  Apparently, it sprung a leak and was flooding the garage.  I got the water intake turned off which stopped the flow. So, this morning I had to stay home from work to deal with

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I am such a big Coward. First, I guess, some background info is necessary . . . About 3 years ago, when I was first coming to terms with being gay, I was once searching to see what sort of gay culture existed in the Dallas/Fort Worth area; and, lo and behold, I found a gay photographers club.  I love photography and I wanted to meet other gay people - so I joined.  But, this was at a time when

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Over the centuries society has established certain rules - a code of conduct - pertaining to relationships.  Rules that govern proper behavior - rules created with a heterosexual mind set. For example, it's generally accepted that a happily married man does not fraternize with other women lest he be guilty of impropriety.  But what if the man doesn't view women in "that way".  What if she really

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A couple of weeks ago a young man, who was leaving to serve a mission, spoke in church.  I know this young man well, having been his youth adviser.  As he spoke the thought occurred to me - wondering if I will still be sitting there in church when he returns back home in 2 years.  As I sat there pondering that thought, my eyes started to well up and tears started to trickle down my cheek - upon

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It's been a while since I posted anything to my blog - it's been even longer since I posted anything meaningful and/or insightful (and the wait will continue even after this blog post).  Although, I do find myself wondering if anybody - other than the two MoHo's I've been in email contact with - even missed me.  I'm not wallowing in self pity (well, maybe I am, just a little) - I realize that

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It has been suggested that the theme for March be your first meaningful kiss. Personally, I'm not really sure what to say on this topic. Thing is, I really do not like kissing.  It's slimy, messy, and just generally icky.  Although, in truth, I've only kissed girls - two girls to be specific.  One girl whom I briefly dated in high school, and the girl who later became my wife. I sometimes

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I've finally succumbed and added word verification when commenting on my blog.  I still allow anonymous comments; but, I guess that will have to be the next to go if the word verification doesn't put a dent in the blog spamming. What I don't understand is the weirdness of some of the blog spam.  I can understand those that contain links trying to sell or promote something.  But, some of these

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I watched Lazytown on the Nick Jr. channel with my granddaughter earlier this month while my daughter was visiting with her two children - although my granddaughter calls the show "pink hair" after the lead character.. Now I have this stupid song stuck in my head and it won't go away. Seriously, they've been gone over a week - and I still can't get this inane song out of my head. Dippity dee

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I received the following email earlier today: celine has asked to be your friend at BoreMe. celine sent this message: I am Interested In You, Hello Dear, My name is celine, 23 years old girl and I am average in height and fair in complexion, I am a loving, romantic and caring angel. I read your profile truly is quiet interesting to me then I decide to contact you. I really want to have a good

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I don't know what brought this up, but I was thinking about this yesterday and thought I'd share it. When my two oldest children were just toddlers, I was called to be the Young Men's president in my ward.  As such, I felt I should go to Boy Scout leadership training as I really didn't know much about the program - having only made it to 2nd class scout myself as a boy. I don't know how they do

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No, get your minds out of the gutter.  That's how much snow we got on Thursday - setting an all time record for the amount of snow in a single day.  It continued snowing after midnight for a total of 12½ inches - setting yet another all time record for the amount of snow during a 24 hour period.  This picture is what I was greeted with from my front porch. Now, for those of you who live in snow

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The Advocate has an article about a 1967 CBS News Special Report titled "The Homosexuals" There is a growing concern about homosexuals in society; about their increasing visibility. In preparing this broadcast, CBS News commissioned a survey by The Opinion Research Corporation in the public attitudes towards homosexuality. We discovered that Americans consider homosexuality more harmful to

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Note: This is something I posted some time ago in my private blog. Truthfully, I'm a bit anxious about posting it here as I am somewhat more open and explicit about my inner thoughts and feelings than I usually am on this public blog. I met Kevin while I was a Freshman in high school. Kevin was the first person who made me feel really good just being around him. I didn't know why. He was good

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On my last post I talked about my journey and how it began years before I finally accepted myself as a gay man - that the road to acceptance started by shedding my own homophobia and learning to accept other homosexuals. I thought I'd follow up with some pearls of wisdom that I've gleaned over the last couple of years of that journey.  Nothing earth shattering, most will invoke a "duh" reaction.

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Wow, it's been almost a week since I last posted.  Not totally unprecedented - A couple of years ago I went an entire month without posting on my blog.  I didn't even look at my blog or comments nor did I look at other blogs during that month.  I was starting to worry that I was becoming addicted to blogging; so, I just wanted to prove to myself that I could stop if I wanted to. Anyway, no such

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I often get a kick out of some of the search terms people use to find my blog.  But, today someone found my blog using a search term that caused me to audibly gasp people who murdered matthew shepard deserved a parade I'm speechless - I don't know what to think or say.  It's one thing to believe homosexuality is wrong and a sin - it's an entirely different matter to rejoice in the murder of a

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According to google analytics:  For the past year, here are the top 25 google searches leading people to my blog mormon enigma blog kris allen mormon mormon enigma is kris allen mormon abelard enigma eunuchs in the bible is kris allen mormon? is kris allen a mormon kris allen kris allen lds kris allen mormon? clark johnson + gay +mormon kris allen american idol mormon mormon-enigma mormon is kris

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In case anybody hasn't figured it out from my last couple of posts - I'm kinda going through my gay pon farr right now.  I first blogged about this phenomena 2-1/2 years ago here and here. I don't stress out about it like I once did - I accept it as just something that happens every now and then.  And, pon farr sounds a whole lot nicer than h--ny. So, please bear with me as I cycle through my

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I really didn't mean to become the premier web site for people wanting to know if a certain winner of a popular singing contest is LDS.  But, I'm realizing that the more I blog about him then the more google hits I get.  I knew that intellectually - but, I guess, I just hadn't internalized it. I'm not interested in maximizing blog traffic - it's not like I have advertising where increased

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Back in May 2009 my blog traffic reached an all time high for the month - mostly from people googling about Kris Allen being a Mormon. Season 9 of American Idol premiered this week - and, once again, I see an increased number of google searches inquiring if Kris Allen is LDS leading people to my blog.  Actually, it has never really let up completely - since last May I get, at least, 3 or 4 hits

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Back in November I ran a poll on MoHo polls regarding gay themed movies.  I extended the poll through the end of December so as to get more votes.  I used the 50 Best Gay Movies on AfterElton and was curious how these movies fared with MoHo's (and friends of MoHo's).  In the poll the movies were shown in alphabetical order.  Below is the same list as ranked by AfterElton and the MoHo votes

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I've started watching The Decorating Adventures of Ambrose Price.  It's shown on HGTV in Canada and has been picked up on Logo here in the US. Ambrose Price is an interior designer whose dream is to make it big and become Canada's Martha Stewart.  Each episode he has some sort of project; for example, on one he was helping out a group with their fund raiser and wrapped a bunch of presents that

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Ring Out, Wild Bells by Alfred, Lord Tennyson, published in 1850 Ring out, wild bells, to the wild sky, The flying cloud, the frosty light; The year is dying in the night; Ring out, wild bells, and let him die. Ring out the old, ring in the new, Ring, happy bells, across the snow: The year is going, let him go; Ring out the false, ring in the true. Ring out the grief that saps the mind, For

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I need some assistance.  I've been racking my brain trying to come up with a new theme and some new polls for January - and I'm coming up blank. Is this something that is even worth continuing into 2010?

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I haven't been keeping up with blogs lately - I haven't been feeling all that well the last week or so and just haven't been on the computer much.  I went to the doctor yesterday and got some drugs; so, I 'll hopefully start feeling better soon. First off, a belated merry Christmas to everyone.  I was planning on writing a Christmas blog post, but it just didn't happen.  So, I hope everyone had

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We've past winter solstice and now the days are getting longer - and I realized I'm running out of time to blog about the monthly theme, which would be most embarrassing - especially since I'm the one who came up with the theme. First off, I'm going to draw a distinction between 'knowing' and 'accepting' - I didn't accept that I am gay until a little over 3 years ago; however, I knew that I

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Today marks the three year anniversary of my very first blog post. On December 19th, 2006 at 7:48pm I published my very first post.  I started with To be honest, I've never understood blogging. Why do some people post intimate details of their lives for everyone to see? And why to other people read blogs? Yet, I find myself reading blogs, and now I am writing my own blog. So, how have I

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I've gotten behind on MoHo Polls (Thanksgiving did that to me - that's my story and I'm sticking to it). Anyway, I just posted some new December polls this morning. These came from a fellow famly member (I'll leave it to them if they want to identify themselves). I also extended the movie poll as not very many people voted last month.So, vote on the movie poll if you haven't already - and then

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Got the following email from the high priests group secretaryThis Sunday we will have a group discussion based on this past General Conference talks. Share your favorite talk(s) from the last General Conference Oct 2009. Who spoke , what was said and what stood out to you.We will draw names to see who goes first.We will have time for all.I really hate these sort of "lessons" - I just don't

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My wife and I went to see New Moon yesterday. When we arrived they only had one of the ticket booths open; so, there was a bit of a line. It was cold; so, my wife went inside to wait while I waited in line to get tickets. When I got to the front, there was a cute boy in the booth - which, I don't know why, made it a bit awkward to say" two tickets for New Moon". I was happy that it was on the

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I've begun receiving blog spam (comments not related to my posts - generally trying to sell something) fairly regularly. It's been a problem almost as long as I've had this blog; but, it was something that only happened once every few months. However, of late it's been a weekly occurrence and I worry that they may start coming even more frequently. I delete them when they come (I hope I've

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I've worked with the youth in the church for most of my adult life; and, I've gotten quite close to a few of the young men I worked with and with whom I've kept up with as they've moved on with their lives.One such young man's family moved back to Utah a couple of years ago where he finished high school and is now in the military. I've been thinking about him a lot lately. He is a facebook

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I received a survey in the mail regarding the purchase of my Nissan Cube a few months ago. It is an extensive 9 page survey that covers the factors leading to my purchase, driving habits, brand loyalty, etc. It seemed to be legitimate; so, I filled it out.At the end of the survey was demographic information: Age, marital status, education level - and then this questionWhich of the following

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I'm such a follower sometimes. A lot of people have been posting a word cloud created by wordle which allegedly shows the most popular words used on a web site. I say allegedly as I'm suspicious about how accurate it really is.First I changed my blogger settings so that all of my blog posts, since the beginning, were shown. I wanted to get a complete picture of my entire blog, not just what

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Regarding the recent statement by the LDS church supporting the nondiscrimination ordinance in SLC, I keep reading, studying, and pondering; and, I vacillate back and forth between a fair amount of skepticism and thinking that, perhaps, I was too quick to pass judgment against the LDS church regarding their motivations. I don't know, maybe it's just me seeing conspiracy where none exists. I'm

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I have to confess to some skepticism when news of the impending "historical announcement" first started floating around the queerosphere yesterday. So, I was mildly surprised when it actually occurred. It must be big news as a blurb was even included in our local Texas newspaper (we don't get much Mormon news in these parts).I also have to confess to a great amount of skepticism as I read the

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Someone recently found my blog after googling "bikini girls" - they didn't stay long, I'm guessing my blog wasn't quite what they were looking for.Other recent google searches that led people to my blogkris allen lds?kimball, edward l., "the history of lds temple admission standards,"mormon ashley madisonlds ward executive secretary calling sucksstarting spinich seedsmormon men sexually

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I first met my daughter's future in-laws when they flew out to Texas to join us for Thanksgiving. Normally our Thanksgiving feast is fairly traditional; however, that year my wife found a Turducken at CostCo - A turkey stuffed with a duck stuffed with a chicken. My daughters in-laws are not very adventurous in their culinary pursuits; so, this made quite an impression upon them - and remains a

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I've held off making any comments about the upcoming film "8: The Mormon Proposition" because, frankly, I have some reservations about it.Do I agree with the decision of the LDS church to actively support proposition 8? No - but that doesn't mean I consider LDS church leaders to be evil. I expect this documentary is going to cast the LDS church is a very negative light - and I just can't support

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This week in seminary we learned about Enos. While hunting wild beasts in the forest, Enos relates that his "soul hungered" and he knelt and prayed for forgiveness. His prayer continued throughout the day and into the night, until he heard a voice, saying: "Enos, thy sins are forgiven thee, and thou shalt be blessed" (Enos 1:1-5).What we can learn from Enos is that faith, by itself, is not

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I've been going through stuff trying to simplify my life and get rid of junk. I can't believe how much crap I've accumulated over the years. Anyway, I cam across a box of stuff from my high school days. In this box was a hydrometer.A hydrometer kinda looks like a big old fashioned thermometer and is used to measure specific gravity. It is/was used by vintners (wine makers) for measuring the

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Sometimes . . . I don't want to be gay anymore. I don't just mean the terminology - I don't want to be attracted to guys. Not that I have anything against gay folk; some of the nicest people I know are gay. It's just that for someone in my position - a man married to a woman - it's dang inconvenient to be heterosexually-challenged.I can't help being gay. I try to not let it define me - but

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I've created a new blog titled MoHo Directory. I've moved my blog list of family, extended family, and friends of the family over to this new blog and will, eventually, be deleting them from this blog.Please let me know if there are any mistakes, missing blogs, etc.Feel free to add a link to the MoHo Directory on your blog. A bitmap we could use as a button would be nice, if anybody feels so

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I was preparing my seminary lesson - as I often do on Sunday afternoon. In addition to the seminary teacher resource manual, I was also referring to the Institute Religion 121-122 Book of Mormon student manual - as I often do - for further insight. This week we're studying the book of Jacob.The prophet Jacob chastened the people for, among other things, sexual immorality - leading to further

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It would be hypocritical of me to not blog about where I am in my journey - my proposed theme for October 2009.How did you get to where you are today?I grew up in a different era. Except for small geographical pockets, like San Francisco, people just weren't open about their sexuality. There was a gay student union in my college which intrigued me - but I was investigating the LDS church at the

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My 15 seconds of fame came a couple of years ago when I discovered that my blog is referenced in a Wikipedia entry titled Homosexuality and The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. Since I do get occasional hits on my blog via that link, I have gone back to read it a few times. The article has changed dramatically over time. I'm not sure I can put my finger on it - but the article has

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This is an appeal to the woman-folk who read my blog. Maybe you could help me understand an/or give me adviceOn Sunday, I am going to a potluck dinner with the local chapter of Affirmation. I'm also bringing my copy of the Gay Christian Network documentary Through My Eyes for us to watch together. A few weeks ago I actually brought up the idea with with my wife of hosting such an event in our

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Esquire magazine has an article claiming that the reason for the vampire craze (i.e. Twilight) is that there are, evidently, a whole bunch of young women who want to have sex with hot young gay men. Harry Reid has publicly criticized the LDS church for their involvement in proposition 8 in California.And now me thinks all is not well in Zion. What with Hollands chest beating "the Book of

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That's really all I have to say on the matter.

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A proposed theme for the month of October 2009 to blog about is:Where are you in your journey?Many, if not most, of us started out at one point in our lives believing that homosexuality is a grievous sin - second only to murder in seriousness. Some may still believe that homosexuality is wrong - which is fine - but their understanding of homosexuality has probably changed. SoHow did you get to

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Checkout the new polls on MoHo Polls for October 2009.I appreciate all of those who took up the challenge to blog about their thoughts on masturbation during the month of September. I've published a post on MoHo Polls with links to all of the ones I know about as well as links to other resources representing a wide variety of different views on the topic. Let me know if I missed any blog posts

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I think Facebook is trying to turn me straight.According to Facebook stats, 73% of my Facebook friends are of the male persuasion, yet the vast majority of the people Facebook recommends as friends are girls.It's even invited me to become a fan of Mercedes Jones, Tina Cohen-Chang, Quinn Fabray, and Sue Sylvester from Glee. With all of my gay Facebook friends, shouldn't it be recommending I become

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I have to confess - fast and testimony meeting is probably my very least favorite meeting of all time. For any non-members who may be reading this. One sunday of every month is designated as "fast sunday". It's usually the first sunday, but not always. We fast for two meals (for us, it's breakfast & lunch) and donate the money we would have spent on those meals to the church to be distributed

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OK, I had a job interview today - my first one since being laid off [please hold the applause]. It was for a part time math tutoring job. It would be 20 hours/week tutoring students who failed the standardized test last year in math. They understand I am looking for a full time teaching position and am willing to allow me time off for interviews, etc.I've also been contacted by a couple of

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Nearly 4 weeks ago I proposed that we - the bloggers of the Mormon queerosphere - designate the topic of "masturbation" for the month of September. It is clearly a topic for which there is a lot of interest - and, judging from the polling results, one on which there are a variety of opinions.It is now September 25th, and as far as I know, only two other bloggers have taken up the challenge - and

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Ever hear a talk at church that really resonated with you? One that you remember for years afterwards? I heard such a talk many years ago when my children were still preschool age. The speaker was a psychologist and he spoke of the different types of teachings we have in the church. He listed 3 main type of teachingsGospel teachings - These are the eternal truths (e.g. the plan of salvation).

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