I love Miss Manners

Dear Miss Manners:

I am a 45- year-old mother of three, and about five years ago, I decided to start coloring my hair to cover up the gray. My color of choice is blonde.

The three hours I spend at the hairdresser every six weeks is the only luxury I have in my life. When I come out, I feel relaxed, young and beautiful. I get plenty of compliments. However, there are people who will point out to me that “that’s not your real color.” Usually, I laugh and say it’s part of my midlife crisis, but I don’t think I need to justify why I chose to go blonde, nor should these people be able to go away thinking that they were right in insulting a person.

Do you have any suggestions for polite, yet assertive responses that would gently yet firmly put these people in their place? I would never dream of commenting on a person’s hair or clothing unless it was a compliment.

Gentle Reader:

Would it be of any comfort to know that these busybodies are every bit as active advising those of us who do not color our hair to do so?

No, and it shouldn’t be. Having other people pick over one’s hair is revolting.

Miss Manners does not advise you to taunt a person who has just been proven to be rude. Your answer should be a soft, “Why, that’s very kind of you to point that out.”

The phrasing prompts the other person to say an automatic “thank you” that is choked off with the realization that gratitude is neither meant nor deserved.

I love Miss Manners - she is one classy lady. I just love her suggested response to rude comments about the womans hair color.

Can we put our collective gay brains together to come up with a similar response to rude comments about gays? Something that would make Miss Manners proud!