Apparently, June is Gay Pride month. Why doesn't anybody tell me these things?
No, I'm not getting my thong out to wear at the next gay Pride parade - although, if I did, I might cause many homosexuals to rethink heterosexualism :)
We may or may not agree with how others celebrate gay rights; but, the simple fact of the matter is, all of us here in the Mormon queerosphere owe a certain debt of gratitude to the brave souls who have risked incarceration, violence, even death, in the fight to be recognized as legitimate - to be granted a basic human right - the right to exist.
All of us benefit from events such as the Stonewall riots of 1969. Imagine being a homosexual in a climate as existed back in the 1950's or 1960's. How many of us would risk having a blog if the mere admission that we are attracted to those of our same gender would brand us as sick perverts? Imagine being subjected to aversion or shock therapy in an attempt to be turned into a heterosexual.
While the gay community has reason to celebrate, their methods of doing so are often self defeating and tend to bolster negative stereotypes - IMOHO. Society views gay culture as one of drugs, promiscuous sex, limp wrists, effeminate behavior, marching in thongs, etc.. It's small wonder that many in society are repulsed by gay culture if that is how they view it.
In order to gain greater acceptance, society needs to see more gay people who are like everyone else in every way - except they happen to have an affinity towards members of their own gender. They need to see people who are in their work place, standing in line with them at the ATM, worshiping with them at church. In short, they need to see more people like us.
We're like Marilyn of the Munster family - the most "normal" one of whom the rest of the family is vaguely ashamed. We're part of the silent gay majority who don't cause people to cringe, to turn the other way and to cover their children's eyes when they see us. We hide in plain sight.
I'm not advocating that we should all march proudly in the next gay pride parade. I'm not suggesting we should start wearing rainbow ties to church. I am merely saying that we should not be judgmental of our gay brothers and sisters who do so.