Thursday, May 6, 2010
Essay: Homosexuality - an inconvenient truth
In an attempt to justify our existence, some try to conjure up explanations that do not require them to rethink their original beliefs - just like a scientist who tries to explain away an anomalous data point as a measurement or transcription error. Most of the other data points lead to the same conclusion - so there is, obviously, something wrong with the few that do not.
They try to imagine causes - such as sexual abuse as a young child, or an overbearing mother and a distant father, or excessive masturbation as a teen. They label it as unnatural - ignorant of the fact that homosexual behavior has been observed in virtually every animal species.
We are compared to those with mental conditions that lead them to compulsively steal or abuse children - an insulting comparison as it reduces homosexuality as being all about sex. But doing so makes it easy to focus on certain aspects of gay culture as anecdotal evidence that we are broken or confused.
Some depict homosexuality as emblematic of all that wrong in the world - making homophobia a powerful political force which unites people in a common cause against salacity. We are accused of conspiring to destroy society and force our deviant lifestyle upon the masses - then irony being, that as a gay man married to a straight woman, my homosexual lifestyle is no different than many of those leading the fight against homosexuality.
Two of us joined together in a committed monogamous relationship is considered so vile as to threaten the very foundation of marriage between a man and a woman.
Children must be protected from us, not only physically since, of course, everyone knows that we are all pedophiles - but also from even having awareness of us, fearing that we will recruit them.
So great is their fear of homosexuality that they seek to censure books and other media that include gay characters and/or gay relationships. Some even go so far as to conjure up homosexual influence where none exists - such as Tinky Winky, Snagglepuss, even Bugs Bunny - and warn others to avoid such influence in their homes.
In some parts of the world - homosexuality is considered so loathsome that extermination is seen as the only solution.
We are mocked and ridiculed. We are often the brunt of crude jokes. To be called a queer is the ultimate insult for a man. We are taught from our youth that being gay is a choice - one so horrid and terrible that some of us are driven to take our own lives rather than face the truth. The very thought of being gay causes others of us to spend years, even decades, in denial of our true selves.
And yet through all of this - homosexuality continues to exist, even thrive in some quarters. Why? Because in spite of all of the lies, falsehoods, and distortions that are disseminated - truth, however inconvenient, has a way of coming out.