I mentioned in my last post it felt like the psychologist I was seeing didn't seem comfortable talking about the gay thing. What I didn't mention is, at the end, he asked me if I wanted to make another appointment, in a tone that almost felt like he was hoping I said 'no'. I went ahead and made an appointment; but, I've been thinking more about that visit and decided that he and I just weren't hitting it off, so it's time to cut my losses and find a new shrink.
Rewind: I had tried calling several other psychologists before the one I visited. I went to the website for my insurance company, searched for psychologists in their network within 10 miles of my zipcode, got a list sorted by distance and just started at the top with the one closest to my house and worked my way down.
Shrink-1, I was specifically looking for a male psychologist as I'm not sure I could open up to a girl. I have a hard enough time opening up to my wife - it seems impossible for me to open up to a woman I don't even know. Anyway, when I called Shrink-1, I got an answering machine that listed out the names of a couple of psychologists, neither of whom were the guy I thought I was calling and both names sounded to be more of the female variety.
Shrink-2, Again I got an asnwering machine, left a message, but he never called me back
Shrink-3, Called and talked to his receptionist. Turns out he was out of the office and wouldn't be returning for a couple of weeks.
Shrink-4, Got yet another answering machine. Upon listening to the message, I learned that, due to paperwork demands, he no longer accepts insurance.
Shrink-5, is actually a psychiatrist rather than a psychologist. Decided to hold off calling him. Although, I may rethink that if I decide I need to have my meds reevaluated (since psychiatrists are M.D.'s and can prescribe medication, psychologists cannot)
Shrink-6, listed "christian counseling" has his specialty. I had visions of being carted off to Exodus International, so I decided to pass on him.
Shrink-7, according to his profile, he is an old geezer. In fact, he listed "geriatric psychiatry" as one of his specialties. Perhaps it was my pride, but I decided to skip over him.
Shrink-8, got an answering machine - only this guy actually called me back, so I made an appointment with him and have had two visits with him.
It's been a couple of weeks, so I decided to call Shrink-3 back to see if he is back in town. He is, so I made an appointment for tomorrow afternoon.
I called my insurance just to make sure there weren't going to be any problems changing to a different therapist. Turns out they gave me an 'open authorization' which is good for any psychologist on their network (which is rather vast) - and it's good for 1 year.
So, for Abelard, it's open season on psychologists. I've me got a list - and I know how to use it! There are 55 male psychologists within 1o miles of my home - so, I'll just keep working down the list until I find the right guy. And, I can always go back and expand my search.