Thursday, August 20, 2009

Second batch of answers

Here is another batch of answers - keep those questions flowing.

Q: Is homosexuality a sexual orientation like heterosexuality? In other words, do you equate the two? If not, why not?

Maybe I'm not understanding the question - but it seems obvious to me that homosexuality and heterosexuality are opposite ends of a sexual orientation spectrum. So yes, I equate the two.

Q: What is the difference between love and being in love?

Hmmm ... I've seen this question equated to the ocean. A person can know all about the ocean without ever having been in an ocean. Loving the ocean is not the same as experiencing the ocean.

The dictionary defines love as "a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person." I can love another person without necessarily being in love with them. I can care deeply for another person without desiring to consummate that love with sexual intimacy.

To further complicate things, I think it is also possible to be in love with the idea of being in love. So, I can be in love with being in love without actually loving the person I'm in love with.

Oh, this one's too hard ... my brain hurts.

Q: Is it possible for a gay person to be in love with someone of the opposite sex?

Given the number of us in MOM's - I'd have to answer yes.

Q: Is it possible for a straight person to be in love with someone of the same sex?

Certainly! Isn't that what bromances are all about? Loving someone and wanting to have sex with them are not equivalent.

Q: If it is possible for a gay/straight person to be in love with someone of the opposite/same sex then can really be considered gay/straight?

Love and sexual attraction are not the same thing. Sexual attraction is a component of love - but there are other components of love that transcend sexual attraction. So yes, a gay person can love someone of the opposite gender without being sexual attracted to them. That doesn't change the fact that they are gay and are sexual attracted to people of their own gender.

Q: What's your favorite color?

Blue, but not just any blue - more of a periwinkle blue, but a bit more intense. Maybe it's more of an electric blue that I'm envisioning.

Q: Are you gonna post more recipes? I have yet to make your brisket but think my family would love it.

I have another blog where I've been posting recipe's. I'm not ready to link the two blogs since that other one is under my real identity. But, if you send me your email (my email is in my profile) then I'll send you a link. Or, if you would rather, I can send you a Facebook invite and it's in my Facebook profile.

Q: Do you think being gay would be easier if you weren't LDS?

It depends on what I was if I weren't LDS. I was raised protestant - and homosexuality was condemned just as much. However, in high school I turned agnostic. Had I not joined the LDS church in college then, I think, I probably would have had a boyfriend before I graduated from college :)

Q: What's your favorite ice cream?

Chocolate chip - which is getting harder to find these days. But, it has to be real chocolate chip - not chocolate chip cookie dough, mint chocolate chip, or any other chocolate chip abomination.

Unless I'm at Braums - then my favorite is chocolate almond. But, it can only be Braums chocolate almond.

Barring chocolate chip (or Braum's chocolate almond), my second favorite ice cream is rocky road.


Anonymous said...

Some other faiths determine their stance on gay relationships by democratic vote -- a recognized pluralism of scriptural interpretation. The LDS Church is based more on top-down, prophet-oriented, revelatory decree. As a gay LDS person, how do you relate with Church leadership, including the President of the Church, when it comes to their views on SSA? To what extent do you grant them absolute moral authority on such matters?

Sean said...

hmm, i have to think of a really good question for you.

1. did you like the music for the new star trek spinnoff "enterprise" yes/no, why/why not? :D

2. have you seen the syfy tv show Warehouse 13? and what do you think?

3. I like being gay. I like myself for who I am. I define myself for those reasons. However, there are many who prefer that we do not use the term "gay" to define ourselves. What are your views?

Sean said...

follow up question(s)

Q: Kirk or Picard?